one thing i find friends lamenting is not meeting people outside school or work. a by-product of being so busy with either is that there's precious little time to go on a friend-making spree. while i'm all for quality over quantity when it comes to many things, friendships being one of them, the past couple of months have been good in that department. guilty as charged - most of my friends are lawyers or medics, with the odd banker (usually former lawyer haha) thrown in for good measure. was talking about this with a new friend (yay! few and far between!) who was aghast that i've no friends who're waitressing (for example) or unemployed. argued that i did, because hey who hasn't waited table while in uni (couple of my classmates do just that), and my dear sister is waiting tables while in lawsch but he meant like waitressing as a career. so no friends on the front-of-house end of f&b but i did go through my mental rolodex and pulled out a few unique examples. like M who's a full winemaker, Z who's a bona fide star on stage and K who runs a gym. i also kind of know a pimp, but that's probably not a conversation for polite company...
lengthy pre-amble aside, i was quite happy to meet A, a friend's friend, when she relocated. to be absolutely honest, i barely even know R. he was schoolmates with a childhood friend who joined us for lunch at least 7 years ago in sg (fish soup at the ship ftw!) and bumped at luiz's a few months ago. props to him for remembering my name and face (probably something to do with my being prolific on fb, eek) and when i was trying to sell my train tickets on fb a while back, he got in touch to ask if i wanted to meet his friend. which i did. i love it when my friends hit it off (to the point where i end up marginalised haha) and have generally good experiences / feedback when i've set new transplants up with friends who're already settled in said new locale.
not one to believe in karma but more in inherent 'clickability' i thought it'd be nice to meet someone new. and from emails and fb messages (she liked my london list, a good sign!) A seemed like a lovely girl. tell a lie though, she's a surgical resident so i can't quite escape the medic clutch! we decided on a mid-week dinner near hers and by the end of the evening i was in full-blown girl crush mode. she was whip sharp, smart as anything, driven yet unassuming, candid, inspiring and very big-sisterly when it came to job apps and potentially hauling my backside stateside should the mister want to seek his fortunes in the US of A. i'm horrible when it comes to new people and don't warm up to nor trust strangers easily. in fact my best friends are girls i've known for 20+ years and even then they joke that it's taken two decades for me to open up. but sometimes someone special comes along and you know that you're going to be friends. without meaning to jump the gun, she's someone i hope to see more of and will defo die of embarrassment if she ever reads this. but it was a great night and when i relayed everything rather excitedly to the mister after, he was glad that for a couple of hours i was less crabby antisocial hermit more well-adjusted adult.
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